"We are all just a car crash, a diagnosis, an unexpected phone call, a newfound love or a broken heart away from becoming a completely different person. How beautifully fragile are we that so many things can take but a moment to alter who we are forever?"
Samuel. D Thompson
This quote has been spinning through my mind for so long, because it's such a simple statement with such a deep and powerful meaning. I stumbled upon it on a friend's Instagram and I probably already spent hours thinking about transience and simply the beauty of life. So I'm not going to tell you the details, but I still think anybody can relate to what I am taking about. After me and my boyfriend broke up I felt like crab and my world kinda broke into pieces. At least that's what I thought at that very moment. That I'm never going to be able to be happy and to smile again and that my life would never be the same again without him. And so on. Just the typical thoughts right after a breakup I guess. But of course, that's not what happened. The only thing I was right with was that I was never going to be the same person again as I used to be. And I'm glad about that. I have become an even more openminded, adventurous, introspective and creative person ever since then and I am so pleased with how it all turned out to be. I like myself a lot more today than I did a few months ago. I am more content and I appreciate the little things in life a lot more. I try to live in the present and be thankful for what I have right now instead of holding on to things and worrying about letting go. So I figure my mum was right when she told me that great things are about to come when everything seems to be falling apart and that old energy is clearing out for new energy to enter. Sometimes we need to let things pass, plunge into the change and just move it. And be patient.
Another phrase I stumbled upon was the following one: If a flower is already dead, you don't water it anymore. It's that simple. So why is it that humans do everything to save love when it's about to break but not to protect it while it's still "whole"? We always tend to hold on to things because we fear something great like that won't happen twice. But that is so not true! This way of thinking is so illogical because while we are holding on to things that have already passed new and even greater chances pass by. And that's probably why we think great things won't happen twice. They are happening but we are just not realizing them. But still, everyone of us holds so tightly on to what they have, even if it's already broken and unfixable.
"We chase the memories of our past because it's easier than building a better future."
To me, it's still a mystery why we don't learn to take risks and use the opportunities life offers us. We often complain about how our life could have been if we had done this and that differently. If we had signed up for the other job, studied a different subject, moved to another town, and so on. But as most of the time we tend to choose the easier path, we simply hold on to the memories of our past instead of taking the bravery to build the future of your dreams. We sometimes prefer to suffer from reality because we are to scared to speak up and see what happens. And at the end of the day it's always the same question that comes to my mind. I wonder what people, what I, what we could have been if we had the courage to speak our feelings and thoughts. It's all about overcoming our biggest fears. Because the truth is, every time we take a big risk in life, no matter how it ends up, we are always glad we took it. So let us all try to take more risks and to chase the life of our dreams, so that when we get old and look back to our lives we'll say: "I'm glad I did this" instead of "What if...". And since I was talking about the fragility and transience of life, we should speak up while we still have the chance to. Everyday can be the day our whole life changes. Irretrievably. So go for whatever your heart desires. Go for it now. And don't look back. xx
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